Which Guy Should You Go On a Date With? - Katie Xiong

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Which Guy Should You Go On a Date With?

Are you interested in finding out which kind of guy you are most compatible with? Look no further! 

Take this detailed and scientifically-backed quiz to determine the type of guy that you should most likely go on a date with. Answer the questions thoughtfully. Score your response by calculating the answer choice (A, B, or C) that you chose most frequently.

1. Describe your perfect first date:

A. Going to a fancy restaurant and ending with a romantic midnight stroll; he gives you his wool coat which smells like the iced americano he will have the next morning.

B. Singing your heart out together at a karaoke bar in LA K-town; you’re both horrible at singing, yet don’t care at the same time. 

C. An intimate home-cooked dinner at his home; he made his mother’s braised short rib for you.

2. Which of these love languages resonate most with you?

A. Physical Touch: He holds your hand in the car when he drives and kisses your forehead when you’re sad. 

B.Words of Affirmation: He calls you baby and wishes you good morning/good night every day.

C.Quality Time: He shares his schedule with you, so you both can find a good time to call.

3. What’s a normal day for you?

A.Studying at the library all day while running on three cups of coffee

B. Hanging out with your friends until your mom is calling asking you where you’re at. 

C. Work –> Gym –> Home

4. Which text message would you most likely respond to?

A. “are you awake?”

B. “good morning :)”

C. “I’ll be in a meeting all morning until noon, hope you have a wonderful day.”

5. He leaves you on seen. What do you do?

A.You try to come up with excuses in your mind for him.

B. Put his messages on silent all day, trying to ignore him.

C. Nothing because he already told you he’d be busy until noon.

6. Oh, he apologized saying he was “busy”. How do you respond?

A.“Sure you were.”

B. You continue to ignore him for the rest of the day.

C. “No worries, how was your day?”

7. Out of these zodiac signs, which one do you get along with the most?

A.Capricorn

B. Scorpio

C. Libra

8. He gets you something for your first date. What is it?

A. Actually, he didn’t get you anything. “It was just a first date” you would over-hear him tell his friends a week later. He’ll apologize and send you a recording of him playing a song from your favorite movie of all time on the piano. 

B. The Korean skincare set you had texted him about one time. 

C. Flowers + a PDF of his mother’s short rib recipe.

9. What is a red flag you can accept?

A.He avoids commitment and gets elusive when you talk about the future.

B. He’s hot and cold in communication, disappearing for days at a time.

C. After a week of getting to know one another, he wants you to meet his mom. 

10. It’s nearing the end of your first date. What are you hoping happens?

A.You both end up at his house for something a bit more. He’ll see you the next day on campus and pretend nothing happened. 

B. He walks you back to your hotel room and kisses you before saying goodnight. He won’t text you until you text him the next day. 

C. He tells you he had a good time tonight and makes sure you get to your uber safely. Later that night, he texts you that he hopes to see you again soon, and apologizes for being so shy. 

Your Score:

Mostly A’s: The “i’m not looking for anything serious right now” Guy!

This guy appears to be currently unprepared for a committed relationship, yet he unmistakably expresses an inclination towards more “casual” involvements. Your tendency to fall in love with emotionally unavailable men might stem from a belief that you can change them (he will definitely prove you incredibly wrong). You were probably acquainted with him during your high school years, but his awareness of your presence crystallized only after you underwent a glow-up phase in your senior year—losing weight and bleaching your hair. He’s most likely privileged due to his parents’ prosperity as accomplished surgeons, and so he has no real issues with inviting you to a nice dinner at an obscure French restaurant on the other side of town. Unbeknownst to you, you may find yourself proposing splitting the bill for the evening, an offer to which he will seemingly agree. This may rattle you a bit, but inside you start to make excuses for him, already trying to save him before you have him. 

Although he seems like a red flag altogether, he will reveal personal aspirations and past traumas, triggering a compassionate response within you, leaving you to stay with him in a complicated situationship. As you navigate the ensuing six months of this complex dynamic, an impending geographical shift awaits him, as he transfers to a more esteemed university in Los Angeles, leaving you stuck with your memories of him in your hometown. You’ll probably end up blocking each other over social media because he got angry about the poetry you posted about him. He knew you were a writer, what did he expect? You’ll probably cry about him multiple times until you can no longer take the morning dehydration headaches. You’ll remember him as what he was longer than actually knowing who he is. 

Mostly B’s: The love bomber Guy!

This guy is exactly your type—adorable, sweet, the whole deal. Initially, his flirting might strike you as a bit much, maybe even cringy, but soon enough, you find yourself warming up to the playful charm he brings. Your tendency to fall for guys offering the bare minimum could be tied to a deeper need, maybe stemming from a lack of experience with genuine, reciprocated love in the past, and unfortunately, he won't be the one to change that narrative. You likely crossed paths through a dating app, with him residing in San Diego, while you're six hours away. Despite the geographical challenge, he's probably showering you with affectionate messages, celebrating your achievements with flowers delivered right to your door, and eventually orchestrating a meet-up in Los Angeles—because, why not find a middle ground, right? (although LA is really not in the middle). His presentation of a flawless image persists. A white Tesla becomes the chariot for your evening, leading to a Korean BBQ establishment of his preference. Here, he not only undertakes the role of the grillmaster but also ensures that each succulent morsel finds its way to your palate first. Generosity prevails, as your offer to contribute to the $55 per person expense is summarily dismissed, with his prompt settlement of the bill. You’re probably freaking out because you’ve never been treated so well before.

Now, here's where things take a turn. Around the two-week mark, you start noticing some cracks in the seemingly perfect facade. Attempts at serious conversations are met with prolonged periods of being left on 'seen' or 'delivered,' all attributed to his overwhelming school schedule. You will probably overthink his actions, scrolling up to past text messages to get a sense of explanations. Perhaps one night when the pain hurts too much, you will get on your knees on the floor of your bedroom, begging God to keep him in your life. This action will be surprising because you’ve never been religious before in your life. Promises to attend your Friendsgiving? Well, he backs out at the last minute, sharing that he's not up for it. And just like that, after a month, he goes silent, and you realize he's ghosted you. Unfollowed on social media, texts not going through—yes, he even blocked your number. It turns out, his true colors weren't far behind. While the performance he staged turned out to be nothing more than a facade, it's entirely acceptable to allow yourself the space to shed tears each night over the next two weeks. After all, the emotions it stirred within you were undeniably genuine.

Mostly C’s: The right person, wrong time Guy!

This guy, though distinct from your usual dating preferences, emerges as a positive influence on your mental well-being. Your tendency to gravitate away from those who treat you right might find its roots in a history of limited relationship experience or past traumas, potentially leading you to question your deservingness of love—an unwarranted notion, as you are inherently worthy of love. Your connection likely occurred on Hinge, an avenue sought as a distraction from the world's hardships. While initially not anticipating a serious turn of events, he defies your expectations. Despite a four-year age gap, his demeanor, shaped by upbringing under the guidance of a single mother and older sister, manifests as the perfect man written by women. Despite any perceived disparity, his career in electrical engineering and adeptness at adult responsibilities, like tax management, he consistently ensures you feel valued and uplifted. Examples include dedicating three hours to teaching you about effective LinkedIn usage, aiding in your first-ever car purchase decision, and culminating in the gesture of a round-trip train ticket to his Los Angeles apartment. His joy upon your arrival at the train station is adorable, marked by an unwavering grip on your hand during the car ride to his apartment. The evening unfolds with a surprise home-cooked meal, a candle-lit ambiance fostering intimacy and romance, and conversations ranging from family dynamics to life goals. The night concludes with a slow dance in his living room to Taylor Swift's "Sweet Nothings."

Sounds idyllic, doesn't it? This man appears to epitomize the perfect partner. Yet, as revelations unfold, you grapple with decisions that underscore the complexities of compatibility. Over two weeks, his eagerness to introduce you to his family and discuss matters like religious alignment and relocation to Los Angeles becomes overbearing, given the absence of a formal commitment. The prospect of making substantial lifestyle sacrifices weighs heavily on your mind, prompting a call to end the budding relationship just shy of the one-month milestone. While your decision appears rational, your heart mirrors the potential fractures in his. His mature response seeks continued connection, a proposition to which you agree. Internal reflections may linger on the path taken, but deep down, a conviction emerges that, indeed, you made the right choice.

Katie Xiong is a Hmong American writer and storyteller passionate about amplifying marginalized voices. She has published creative nonfiction in journals like "hais" and the "San Joaquin Review", and written extensively for publications including Mochi Magazine and Fresno State News. Xiong explores themes of cultural identity, intergenerational experiences, and personal narrative. When she’s not turning her trauma into prose, she can be found enjoying overpriced lattes, checking her horoscope, and hosting monthly themed dinner parties with friends.